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Things That Could Go Wrong In a Love Relationship

Let’s face it, men often make mistakes in the first year of a love relationship. Following these few guide lines, will help ensure that the two of you will be enjoying many years to come together.

Everyone is excited that first year of a love relationship. This is the beginning of what will hopefully the first of many years together. You are both learning about each other; both the good and the bad about each other. In this first year it is important to set the tone for the subsequent years, or there just may not be any more!

During that first year, a woman discovers how much her man really cares about her and their love relationship.

Men really need to be on their toes during that first year. You aren’t out to come across as ‘Mr. Perfect’, but you need to be attentive to her and her needs, along with watching how she perceives you. Below are the top 6 areas where men often slip up.

Saying I love you all the time

Those 3 little words, I love you, are some of the most beautiful words in the world. And women love to hear them, just not all the time. The more they are said, the less meaning they have and after a while, they become completely hollow. When you say it, mean it. And save them for special moments when she can be sure that you are truly sincere.

Tolerating everything about her

Both sexes are going to be extra good during that first year in a love relationship, but forgiving every bad or annoying habit is just asking for trouble. The more you let what bothers you slide, the more she will continue to do it, and the habit will be even harder to break.

If she is embarrassing you in public, or is a total slob when it comes to cleaning the kitchen, tell her.

Do so in a loving way, but let her know when something bothers you. Better to tell her in the beginning when you both can be calm, as opposed to waiting and it becoming a full blown argument.

Initiating sex every time

A lot of men only initiate sex in the bedroom, but that isn’t the only place you can have sex. Let her know too that it’s ok for her to initiate sex, that way you are kept wondering  about when the next time will be.

Becoming inattentive

Just because she always takes the time to look her best, does not mean you should stop letting her know that you do notice. Did you used to send her little love notes? Keep doing it. Did you used to take her out to dinner? There may be times you can’t afford a fancy dinner, but taking her out anywhere shows her you are thinking about her.

Did you too used to go to the movies? Unless she has all of a developed a sudden distain for film of any kind, keep taking her out. Money is tight? Rent a film or two, and snuggle up on the couch to watch it. Bottom line is, just because you are used to being around each other is no excuse for taking her for granted.

Avoiding conflict

Keeping the lines of communication open is key in any relationship, even more so in a love relationship. A calm discussion now about a problem is far more appealing than a full blown argument in the future. Avoiding conflict also means you are agreeing with her with your silence. If you don’t bring it up now, she will resent you when she does find out.

Leaving all decisions up to her

Most women don’t like to be in charge of everything. And even more women hate men who won’t ever ‘pick up the ball’. When you leave all the decisions to her, she will lose respect for you, and second guess that you really care about making your love relationship work. Compromise is one thing, blatant avoiding of decisions is another.

It’s ok to ask her what to wear for a special occasion; if you really are fashion challenged, but pick out your own clothes any other time. If she has been to a certain restaurant before and you have not; it’s ok to ask her opinion on what she likes there; but you need to decide which burger you want at the drive-thru!
Avoiding making these mistakes can help insure that the two of you share many more years after that first in your love relationship.