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This must be Heaven

Like a King I sat there at the kitchen table. Eating a mega-sandwich made with love, facing the television, watching some crap on Spike TV. She made the perfect beef sandwich accompanied by a tall homemade ice tea. The kind of ice tea that sparks the neurons and hits the spot.

The dining room table had devotion written all over it

A napkin with a love note scribbled on it, my drink had a straw and a slice of lemon in it, my favorite apple crisp dessert was laid out for me, a strawberry scented candle was lit at the center of the table next to a small picture frame of my girl and I, oh… and a pack of baby wipes next to a damp facecloth. Reason being that while I was eating this meal suited for a King and planned in great detail, her head was bobbing up and down between my legs.

In her eyes, I was the only one

I was her King, our home was our Castle and she lived to please me. I was in heaven. Her attention to detail and her ambition to satisfy my every egotistical need had me hooked. I was spoiled rotten and I knew it.

Essentially, there’s nothing wrong with letting your woman baby you. From full body massages while watching your preferred movie, to getting lathered in the shower,  great head anywhere on the drop of a dime or anything you wish for in bed, to huge culinary feasts made for royalty. I’ve selfishly had it all and you can too.

The only condition to so much blissful receiving is reciprocation. A relationship will only succeed if you give back what you get.

And after months of being on the receiving end and very little energy going the other way, I realized that if I didn’t start giving back soon, things were inevitably going to deteriorate little by little.

Most men are legendary for their laziness. Some days it seems that even a pair of booster cables clamped to our ass cheeks wouldn’t make a difference. But boys, if there’s one thing I can assure you, is that good things don’t last forever unless you’re both putting in the same amount of energy.

Because most women are hardwired differently than men, their needs aren’t quite the same. While they also love good head, a home cooked meal and back massages, their needs are more emotionally oriented.

In return for spoiling them, most women want you to

Listen: Talking seems to make women feel better. You don’t necessarily need to come up with the solutions. Just take the time to look in her eyes, be present and listen.

Give them attention

Whether it’s watching a chick flick, gardening or planning your next vacation. The important thing is that you do it Time spent together doing the things she enjoys, is time well spent.

Have a common goal

It could be a start up company, a charity you both believe in, volunteer work or a child you’re sponsoring. Women love working towards a common goal with their partner.

Give her a personalized gift

A handmade bracelet or necklace, a handwritten love letter, flowers you picked in the countryside, a photo album of the both of you with cute notes under each picture or her favorite picture with your names engraved on the frame. Being original in your gift giving doesn’t have to cost you a lot of money. The important thing is that she sees you put your heart and thoughts into what you’re giving her. That’s the real price tag.

Give her lots of affection

Kiss, caress, hug, cuddle and make her feel like she’s the only one through the warmth of your embrace.

If you follow my advice, you’ll both be in heaven and truly earn what you receive by being just as generous as she is. When benevolence is a one way street, the demise of your relationship is imminent. You both have to open up your hearts to experience relationship heaven. Failing to so only creates an unfulfilling partnership where one of you will inevitably be unsatisfied.